We all dream about someone who will know us better than others and who will accept us with all the virtues and flaws.

People who have managed to achieve this in marriage know how important it is, but also know that achieving true closeness is a kind of emotional risk. 

Marriage does take work, and like anything else in life, you have to do the work to reap the reward. The effort that goes into a successful marriage (read happy, functional and fulfilling) is the type of work that can be fun and therapeutic.

Do not yell at each other

If you and your partner are screamers, an arguing style described as “destructive,” you may be more likely to head down the divorce path.

The best bet? Perhaps take advice and inject humor in the situation if appropriate or as she says, learn to “fight better.”

Stresses the importance of assessing whether your behaviors are making the other person feel as though they’re being taken seriously or ignored. Don’t get bummed out when yelling occasionally occurs though.